A young friend came to visit yesterday, and like so many single parents who work and in this case study, life had become overwhelming.
It’s all too easy to get caught up in the details and distractions which make up our daily lives. Before we know it, the day becomes so fragmented, that we are no longer able to focus on any one thing.
Having been in the same situation when I was considerably younger, I am able to write about this with conviction. It wasn’t until I experienced a personal transformation when I was forty that I began to learn about boundaries and positive habit making.
If we want to fly and experience personal freedoms then we must introduce some structure into our lives. I have learned that structure brings with it great freedom.
The question is….where to begin?
Again, from personal experience I know that if I try to take on too much, it rarely works. In short I sabotage myself.
The more aware I became of this process, I could see that this was a common thread for many. For example, people would attend my workshops and get all fired up…..and then after returning to their ‘normal life’ – the sense of momentum and exhilaration would leave. What to do?
I remember when I began to put structure into my life it wasn’t easy, because I had to start almost afresh. New thinking, new attitudes and routines. This also meant putting up some very clear boundaries to others who might not have been on the same path…..probably the most difficult thing of all.
It was around this time, that I began to offer my ‘Fifteen minutes a day for one month – Apple Exercise’.
It is important to note that the principle of this exercise works for just about anything – writing, physical exercise, etc.
To do this effectively it is important that it is the same fifteen minutes every day and that all distractions, i.e. mobile phones are removed or turned off.
If multiple issues need to be changed….I would suggest only beginning with one thing.
After one month of fifteen minute a day, playful exercises are complete….a new habit will be formed, and with that new habit, will come freedom.